Sat, Nov 15

You feel like a caged animal spending so much of your energy thinking of ways out of it all-how to make the craziness stop. And than you get that freedom and you suddenly feel like a traveler lost in the dessert with no direction and no idea which way to start walking.
It is hard to accept the lonliness and free unconstructed hours. I was so use to being a mom and wife 24/7 and now I found myself seperated and single. The first thing you need to do is make some lists for yourself. Stuff you need to take care of, need to provide immediately for yourself, what you want out of your seperation/divorce and what you want for yourself. A good book to read to help get you organized and help you ask yourself questions you might not be thinking to ask is "The Divorce Organizer and Planner" by Brette McWhorter Sember. It gives you great tips to get you organized in a stressful time as well as touch on all the topics that you will have to think about during this process. If you have children, I found the book "Building a Parenting Agreement that Works" by Mimi E. Lyster very helpful. There is a chapter on everything you will come across as co parents of your children with pages you can fill in making it easier to have offical papers drawn up later with everything already agreed upon and in writing.
Change can be very upsetting espically when it is so drastic. Take it all one day at a time. Embrace your hours alone and use them constructively-no bidge eating, drinking, smoking. It won't help you feel better and it won't get you to the other side of this situation.