Something else I set up as soon as I moved out was a weekly meeting with the X to discuss anything and everything that either one of us has. I went and photo copied that parental agreement I describe in an ealier entry and wanted to go over it with him.
We seem in agreement of just about everything. We basically are writing down the situation and details we have been living out everyday since I left. Things aren't complicated right now. There are no papers filed, no lawyers, no shared physical custody, child support, alimoney.
I had given him some additional noted I had jotted down. Most of it was about division of property and finances. Basically states that nothing is in my name so I am not liable for anything and that I want nothing but my personal belongings. He said he read it without any questions, disagreements or anything to add. I went on to say "Can we agree that we won't be physical with anyone else during the course of our trial seperation?" That's when the bomb dropped....out of his mouth came "I don't think this is going to work". I was beside myself unable to breath or speak. All I could utter was that I needed to leave and I got in my truck and drove to the resturant my friend/roommate works out to hang out there.
The longer I thought about the whole afternoon the anger I got. He let me sit there all that time thinking we were mapping out how to move foward to work on our marriage.
I called him and told hiim that this was just another example of his lack of respect for me. As soon as he cme to the conclussion that he didn't want to make it work he should have hold me instead of letting me think something that wasn't true.
(Needless to say this back and forth of him wanting to try to make it work and than not has gone on since I have left. I stopped asking what he wants. The only person I control is me and I need to decide what I want.)
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